Situation Food Allergy: "Do I really have to bring my own cupcake?"

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What would you do?

Your son, who is allergic to peanuts, is invited to his friend's 12th birthday party. He's excited because they are holding it at the coolest laser tag venue in town. The invitation says, "You bring all the fun. We'll bring everything else."

You call the friend's mom, who tells you that they are supplying all the lunch foods and birthday cake. They ask you if they could buy anything special for your son. You decline and say that you'll pack something for him.

After all, you always pack something special for him during events. It's something you have taken great pride in doing. You want him to be included and not stand out. He always seems to love it. That is, until the morning of this particular event.

"Mom, I've been thinking," he begins as you are in the kitchen searching for the old Tupperware container that says J.J.'s safe snacks!. "Please don't pack anything for me today."

You look at him. "What do you mean?"

"It's nice that you do it, and I really appreciated it when I was little. But now it's more of a hassle, actually. And besides, I really don't need to worry about eating anything. It's only for a few hours. I'll just tell them I ate a big meal earlier and am not hungry."

Even though he has never said this before, you can tell this is something he's been thinking about for some time. You take a breath, look down at the faded letters on the Tupperware container and say...


When a young child with a food allergy is attending a special event, packing safe foods yourself can be key to allowing the child to be safe and yet participate like the others. What do you do when your child starts to become uncomfortable bringing his own foods?